entitlement

I am sure this is just going to wind up as another checkbox next to the “chris is an asshole” column in most people’s book, but I have something to rant about.

So, our new office is in Germantown, which, if you’ve ever been here, is largely very expensive historic houses without driveways or garages – hence for a lot of the neighborhoods, it’s mostly street parking. It’s also mixed zoning, so you have a lot of houses, apartment complexes, condoes, businesses and restaurants.

This week, I caught wind of people in our office scolding/reminding people about parking in a certain spot. I figured it was a fire lane, or a handicapped spot or something. But I asked, and apparently a woman that lives a few doors down with her husband and kids had complained about us parking in front of her house. I guess because it’s inconvenient for her to have to walk a few cars away. Maybe there’s more to the story, and I’ll happily rescind any judgement I’m about to spew forth if that’s the case. But seriously, folks? This is the weird sort of entitlement that drives me nuts.

Don’t get me wrong: I don’t have any problem being a good neighbor and not parking in front of her place as a favor. But for her to actually complain about it? It’s a full neighborhood and parking can be limited at times. If you want a convenient type house for your nuclear family where you can park right next to your house… move to a suburb. An urban historic neighborhood is probably not right for you. Germantown is a half-mil to $1mil house neighborhood, you can afford something in a neighborhood with driveways, I’m sure. Why would you ever move to a mixed-zone historic overlay neighborhood and then have the gall to complain about people parking on a public street in front of your house?

It reminds me of this guy I met a couple of months ago at a photography meetup. He asked where I lived and I pointed across the river and said “there”. He said he had just moved to 4th avenue in a condo downtown, as well. “Welcome to the neighborhood, how are you liking it so far?” I asked. “Not at all, actually,” was his reply – and he goes on to tell me how hard it is with his 7 year old daughter, especially with how much noise and foul language she is subjected to, and how she has to see all those homeless people, they should really do something about that, etc etc. I kinda stared at him and turned to my friend Christy (who is well-versed in my opinions about people downtown and the homeless) and basically did everything I could not to burst out laughing. Seriously, dude, you move downtown on 4th avenue with your 7 year old daughter and then complain about noise and hearing people swear? Have you … ever been to a big city before? Are you familiar with these thing scalled “people” that “exist” in them?

What planet are these people from that they feel compelled to move to an environment with very clear pros and cons, and then feel entitled to complain and try to change it to suit them, as if they’re the only person in the world?

I bitch all the time about harleys and club noise downtown, but I’d never be so stupid as to try to change it. I moved downtown. I’m not an idiot. I have ranted about this before regarding the smoking ban.

Feel free to call me an asshole in the comments below.


Comments

LOL. I hear ya on this one. I went through a similar rant not too long ago when people in East Nashville were complaining about the noise of the airplanes overhead. They were being routed slightly differently because of a violation that had been found with their previous route over nashville. My rant back then was: If you plan to live in a city that’s big and likes to boast about growing even larger, then get used to the sound of airplanes!

Basically it’s the same tangent as you went on. There are certain things you have to expect when living in a city like Nashville. Heck, I live right off Bell Rd. I fully expect to hear sirens every night (and often do). People should expect that whenever they live in any big city.

It’s amazing what they complain about. Like people living next to 440 complaining about the noise of traffic. You moved next to a freeway! What did you expect?

K. I’m done with my mini-rants. I’m gonna go back to being sick on the couch.

Laura CreekmoreOctober 29, 2008 at 15:52 · reply

All I can say is, Amen. Same thing happens in my neighborhood, East Nashville.

morganlevyOctober 29, 2008 at 15:59 · reply

I may print this out and tack it to our neighbor’s door with a knife. Or maybe something a little less passive aggressive.

But seriously, who moves to a duplex that SHARES A WALL with two 22 year olds and an entire street of college students (because our rent is cheap and our duplexes are crumbling) with their 9 week old baby and then have the gall to bitch at people about normal levels of noise at 9pm? Setting aside the entire absurdity of thinking 9pm is a time when everyone should be quiet for them to sleep, what in the hell did they expect when they moved to a duplex with a SHARED WALL with the neighbors!? Yes, we hear everything they do, and they hear everything we do. Yes, it’s annoying to hear their baby screech all night and all morning, but we knew what we were in for when we signed a lease in a duplex. They’re not entitled to any better treatment just because they have a baby. Move somewhere quiet instead of a street full of college students. They got a pretty good deal moving in next to us instead of the frat boys in the next duplex over, considering that we are both out of college, work full time, are reasonably quiet, don’t have parties and don’t have orgies all up on their wall.

Steven WarrenOctober 29, 2008 at 16:18 · reply

I have to say those people are idiots and it makes me kind of want to park my exploder on the sidewalk in front of their house during the day(I won’t though). The two things that aggravate me about these people is one they unwittingly buy a very expensive house that is probably wrong for them if they are special needs. On top of that, they expect people to cater to their needs when they didn’t consider them in the first place. Which in my opinion is irresponsible and reprehensible.

The second part is they don’t own the street, they don’t lease the space, and they have no claim to the street and therefore should keep their mouths shut because they bought an overpriced house without a driveway because they want to live in Germantown.

I feel the same way about people who move to my small country town and then have the gall to gripe about how much they think it sucks and there’s nothing to do. I say get a hobby or move on.

I’m having a nearly identical fight with S-Town Mike about this very thing. I’m afraid on on the verge of having to have a duel with him, because, in suggesting that people who move downtown and complain about the noise are entitled jerks, I have offended his honor, even though he doesn’t live downtown. So, if you’re an ass, we’re asses together.

You’re not an asshole. At least not because of this. That guy is ridiculous.

Amen, brother. It doesn’t make you an asshole; it means you have some sense. It amazes me that people would move downtown and then complain about these things. Did they *visit* the place first before moving?? On another note, I moved out to Hendersonville this summer, and I miss the noise of downtown!!!!

if you were blocking a driveway, i could understand them asking you to not park there. if they were old people and had a hard time getting around, i’d say that the request was reasonable. for able bodied people to live in a mixed use neighborhood, that was mixed use when they moved into their house (assumption) to gripe about it is pretty stupid.

maybe they should move out towards me. not only would they have a driveway, but they would probably enjoy the valet parking at the wal mart.

idiots…

Here’s my take on the driveway thing. I live in a neighborhood like you speak of, but not the same one. We (my neighbors and I) have a small space for parking in front of our house, in the yard actually. The deal when I moved in was that the downstairs occupants could park there, and I was to park on the street. Because of the other neighbors that have tons of company, my space on the street became a free for all. Technically, because it’s in front of the house where I reside I claim first dibs. I ended up giving up parking there from all the people who interloped on my space.

My main gripe about someone parking in my area is this - they park in front of my mailbox. For some strange reason, the mail person will not deliver my mail if the mailbox is blocked. So, I end up being the super-bitch, or at least feeling like one, when I ask people to please not block it.

When my next door neighbor has a driveway long enough to park 8 cars, I can’t figure out why the space directly in front of my mailbox is such hot property…

The thing about the cars parking in front of mailboxes: They burn real good.

I had a neighbor like this in the suburbs, who put a nasty note under my windshield for daring to park across the street. What the hell, chum, you NEVER park where I’d parked that car, and haven’t in the 25 years I’ve lived across the street from you.

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